The Secret of Learning How to Love Yourself and Enhance Your Life
Learning to love yourself sounds easier than it usually is, but if you can learn to do it, you'll enhance your life and improve your chances of success. Research has shown that women who suffer from low self esteem are far less likely to obtain high-paying professional careers or experience happiness in their day to day existence. In fact, they often find themselves feeling incomplete and at loose ends. If this describes you, it may be time to make some changes and take control of your self image. You can learn to love yourself again!
Loving Yourself in a Negative World
Almost every woman has heard a friend, relative or coworker describe herself in negative terms. Usually, no one seems to notice or care. Men, on the other hand, almost never make the same kinds of derogatory comments about their weight, intelligence or performance. If you're surrounded by these negative influences on a regular basis, some of the negativity will almost always rub off on you. You may find yourself downplaying your successes and focusing on tiny flaws that no one else notices.
The good news is that this process isn't inevitable. While negativity is often contagious, it's possible to make a concerted effort to ward it off. Simply avoiding negative thinking can help you enhance life and increase your satisfaction. The key is to be aware of all this negativity when it happens. If you see someone else behaving this way, stop and think about the positive things about that person. If you catch yourself in a negative thought, consider whether you would say the same thing about someone else. In most cases, you'll find that you're being a lot harder on yourself than on the people around you.
Focus on the Positive
While avoiding negative thinking is the first step, it's not the only thing you can do to love yourself. You should also take the time to consider the positive things about you. No matter how bad things get, there's always something you can love about your body and your personality.
If your self esteem is very poor, you may have trouble identifying positive traits to start with. Consider asking someone you trust to tell you some of the things they like best about you. While it may be hard to see those things in yourself at first, simply concentrating on them can help you feel more positive and healthier. Whenever you feel down or discouraged, just remind yourself of your positive traits. You'll soon start believing in them!
Patience is Key
The process of learning to love yourself takes some time and requires a little bit of work. Even after you learn to understand all the good things about yourself, you may have to spend some time shoring up your beliefs. That's because we do live in a very negative world, and all that negativity can erode even the most positive person. If you're willing to be patient and you understand that believing in yourself takes work, however, you can learn to understand all the good things about your body, your skills and your personality.