What Does The Bible Say About Domestic Violence 

  First and foremost we should know that love does not hurt.  Love is patient and kind.  Love is not jealous, boastful, proud, or rude.  Love does not demand it's own way.  Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.  It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.  Love never gives up, never looses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.  I Corinthians 13:4-7.


  • Know that it is not okay for someone to hurt our abuse you.  Do not believe that it is your fault or think that you deserve it, because abuse is not love.  Real love does no wrong to others.  Romans 13:10


  • God made us in His image, and of His essence, He created us to share his love with.  No one has the right to hurt or abuse you.  We were created to have dominion over our own lives and not the lives of others.  Genesis 1:27-28


  • God condemns domestic violence, He hates it.  Psalm 11:5


  • You have the right to live in a house filled with love, peace, and respect.  Isaiah 32:17-18


  • Whatever a man calls you, it's what you become.  Genesis 2:23    His words can either build you up or tear you down.  Proverbs 18:21


Domestic violence is a spiritual and generational curse.  Genesis 3:14-21

  • Generational curses of certain behaviors that have been passed down from one generation to the next such as abuse, alcoholism, drug addictions, sexual abuse, and obesity.
  • Spiritual curse in the reference to the fall of man.  Man rules over woman dominates her, woman desires to please him no matter how he treats her.  Some women will accept any man just to have one.

  Everyone will be held accountable for their actions.  Those who live by the sword die by the sword.  Matthew 26:52.  When you live a life full of violence it usually ends in self destruction.  Judges 9:5,23,56,57.


We are commanded to:

  • Love your neighbor as you love yourself.  Matthew 19:19
  • Husbands be considerate of your wives treat them with respect. I Peter 5:7
  • Wives honor your husbands. I Peter 5:22.  In today's society men are not the only abusers women can be to.  We as women must understand that we are precious, valuable, and are natural nurturers and not abusers.  Learn to love yourself before you begin to love someone else.
  •  Do not use foul or abusive language.  Let everything you say be good and helpful so that your words will be an encouragement to those who will hear them.  Ephesians 4:29
  •  Keep away from angry, short tempered people, or you will learn to be like them and endanger your soul.  Proverbs 22:24


  We have been redeemed from domestic violence.  Jesus Christ has saved us from the fall and has restored the relationship between male and females.  People like to blame God for putting them in those destructive relationships.  Don't blame him.  We have a free will of choice, and your choice is what got you there. 

May be you:

  • Lacked wisdom on what a healthy relationship was.  Proverbs 14:15


  • You saw red flags of abuse and just ignored them.  Proverbs


  • Maybe you were bamboozled, tricked, and deceived by a master manipulator.  Proverbs 16:29
  • You saw abuse growing up so you may perceive that love and abuse go hand in hand.  Matthew 13:25


  No matter how you got there, there is a way out.  How? by renewing your mind.  Proverbs 23:7 " For as a man thinketh in his heart so is he".  Getting information on what healthy and non healthy relationships are.  Educate yourself on what domestic violence is.  Study and meditate on what the word of God says.  Make it a part of your daily routine.  As your thoughts begin to align with God's word your life will begin to transform from the way you live.


  I was in an abusive relationship that was stopping my life.  I had to change the situation.  No matter how hard I tried to be nice to him, change my ways toward him, it didn't work.  He was use to it, so he still would not give me respect.  I had to get bold and do something different.  His words could not cut me down no more.  I made less money than him but it was my house and my car.  He was beginning to loose control.  Things started to get worse.  I was no longer scared of him.  I put him out it was a struggle but I had no more time to pray and think about what I should do.  My life was at a stand still until I became bold and removed the negative situation out of my life.


  Make a decision on what you want to do.  Think about what you will and won't accept in your life.  Have a plan to do things different and renew your mind.  Prepare yourself to move and take action.






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