Confused? To Leave or To Stay



Confused? To Leave or To Stay... - By: Chandra Alexander

Is your relationship in jeopardy and are you wondering whether to leave or stay? Here are some questions to ask yourself before you make this life changing decision.

1. Have you stopped blaming your mate and accepted 100% responsibility for your part in this relationship?

* One hundred percent!! Not fifty percent or seventy percent.

* Accepting full responsibility for your life and the relationship you created automatically gives you back the power to create something different going forward.

* Regardless of what happened, you decided to stay in this relationship as long as you have. You could have left at any time.

2. Are you willing to do whatever you have to do to work on your issues?

* First, are you willing to look at just yourself and not your partner?

* Unless you are prepared to focus on your stuff, you will always end up making excuses.

* The best time to leave a relationship is when you know you have done all you can do to work on your issues and still you are not in sync with your partner.

3. Do you feel this is where you “belong”, no matter what the trials and tribulations?

* Is there more good stuff than bad stuff?

* I have a friend that says, “We love the ones who stay”. So many people are willing to bolt once the real living takes place. People are different from one another. No matter how much you care for someone, there are going to be times when you simply don’t want to be there.

* Sometimes we just know this is where we belong.

4. Are you willing to be brutally honest with yourself and your partner?

* Being brutally honest means not ignoring the red flags and knowing when enough is enough.

* Never stay when you are being physically abused or emotionally disrespected and diminished.

* Leave when you feel you have done all the things you need to do for you to make it right and it still feels wrong.

Is your relationship in jeopardy and are you wondering whether to leave or stay? Here are some questions to ask yourself before you make this life changing decision.

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