Affirmations for Women who have been Abused
Affirmations for abused women are like one-size-fits-all therapy. They are not considered first-line treatment where you have support from a therapist. They aren't even like step-groups where you have the support of other abused women.
But, affirmations for abused women can be very powerful, if the right statements are practiced with right attitude.
Abused women have traits in common. For example, you may have survived the rejection, humiliation and constant fear of abuse, but as an adult the latent emotional devastation is still within. Unconsciously you still carry the effects of abuse, such as lack of trust, low self-esteem, avoiding feelings, relationship difficulties and depression.
Because the perpetrator must be in complete control, the victim was not allowed to express her feelings. Here are feelings affirmations for abused women.
"My feelings are real. I have a right to my feelings."
"I feel. I easily show my emotions to myself and other people."
"I cherish my feelings and release what doesn't serve."
"I trust my intuitive feelings."
"I create good experiences."
"I am only responsible for my feelings."
"I am honest with myself and others."
The more the abuser withholds love from the abused child, the more the child seeks love and approval. As an adult, you became a people-pleaser. These affirmations for abused women will help you let go of the false belief that you must please everyone.
"I am independent of other people's approval."
"I am the best judge of my thoughts and actions."
"I choose me first."
"I am a worthwhile person."
Perfectionism is another common trait stemming from former abuse. Victims of abuse set impossible standards and judge themselves harshly. Setting yourself up for failure by being a perfectionist leads to depression. Starting now – each time you try to be perfect, do perfect – change your mindset to being good enough, doing good enough. Eventually, positive thought will replace those old destructive tapes.
"I am good enough."
"I do my job good enough."
"I am enough."
Abused women are not present centered. You worry, worry, worry about the past and the future. Most of your talk is future oriented – "Someday I'll…" "Soon there will be…" "Before long I'll…". If you had to choose one of the affirmations for abused women, let it be this one.
"I am here now."
Anytime you are tempted to worry about what has already happened or what might happen, say "I am here now". This will anchor your mind in the present.
Your Higher Power is the god of your understanding. Call it God, Creator, or red chair. It doesn't matter what you call it as long as you call. Your perpetrator has held his thumb on your life long enough. Until you surrender to something outside yourself that is greater than you are, you will never be free.
"The light of God within me is producing perfect results in every phase of my life now."
"I give to You my fear."
"All I am is You."
"I place myself in Your hands."
"I accept God's rich good for me."
"This is God's good day. I pronounce this day and all its activities good."
"Perfect love casts out fear."
"God in His almighty goodness is dissolving and removing all negative thought and action from my world."
"The Spirit of God is with me, upholding and sustaining me and making all things right."